2 lesbians, a baby and lentil stew
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Rating: 2.50Alright, I'll just say it. What do you do when 2 lesbians move in beside you, get married and have a baby through artificial means (through a Homosexual friend of theirs). Uh huh. I can hear a variety of answers right now.
I will share my story. I sat quite befuddled about the whole thing. So, I asked God what I should do. After all, I don't agree with the lifestyle and 'goodness sakes they are moving in right beside us'. What if they decide to have wild orgies on their front lawn - what would I tell my kids?? Guess what God told me? 'Be nice.'..........yup, He told me to be nice. That got me thinking. I never considered myself a mean, insensitive person.
Historically, Christians tend to not be nice to homosexuals and visa versa. There is a basically a hands off approach in every day life towards homosexuals. Quite honestly I was uncomfortable. What was God meaning when He said 'be nice'. Was He meaning talk to them be nice, have coffee with them be nice and invite them into my life be nice???? Yes, yes and yes.
Dear God did I struggle. I struggled until I saw them as people, people that God really loved. 2 women that had likes and dislikes, 2 educated women who wanted to change the world in terms of environmental change and 2 women who where incredibly kind and caring. Hmnmm........weird. What was happening to me. I mean, why did God have to pick me for this little life lesson?
It started with me just being 'nice'. T hey were very stand off-ish. I just went about my normal life. I never shot them with my Gospel guns.....I just lived a simple, honest Christian life. 'Preach the Gospel at all times........use words if necessary'. My husband and I persisted in our unforced 'niceness'. We never once made them our 'project' or tried getting them to come to our church. We simply got to know our neighbors. I treated them like I would treat anybody that lived beside me..........with respect. Eventually, they started opening up and sharing their lives with us...........because we shared ours with them. I choose to listen (with great interest) to what they do for a living and what their dreams are. Because I listened to them - they listened to me. We had lattes together and talked about organic foods. They knew we loved God and they respected that. We knew they didn't hold to the same belief and we choose to respect them. We knew each others boundaries. We prayed for them .....they loved us as neighbors. Life was merry and then they dropped the bomb.
'We are pregnant'. Oh my Gosh, pregnant............how could this be???? Consequently, I found out in detail. It was through invetro through a friend named Happy. This really threw a kink in my world. Think about it, it really challenges you in every way. I don't agree with the lifestyle of homosexuality. But, I absolutely know that Jesus would have treated them kindly and shown them the Kingdom through His actions. I mean, He sat with tax collectors, He let a prostitute wash His feet with expensive oil - very controversial. I doubt that these 2 women and their baby would throw Him for a loop.
I remember my response to them. You see, when God starts something as delicate as a 'relationship' you have to be very sensitive to what He would have you say. I remember saying very calmly "Well, children are a blessing." Was I afraid to rock the boat? no. You see, I come from a back ground where you confront head on with no regard for the feelings of the person you are attacking. I have seen people tear someone down to size and list all the reasons why they will burn in hell. Not ever realizing that they just destroyed ever having an opportunity to share God's love or salvation with that person. I have come to see that through relationship comes transformation. I decided to pursue relationship and let God transform them. I would speak about spiritual things when He said too. Besides, I am a Christian all the time. So what you see is what you get. I live it all the time, but I don't flaunt it.
Alright, let's skip ahead. They had their baby. Oh yah, and got married. We have developed a relationship that is sincere, honest and kind. I can sense God working in it. Great!
Then something truly profound happened. God told my husband and I to move. That's a whole story in itself that I have shared before. We were in ministry at the time God said to move. Needless to say. it didn't go over to well with our church. They totally disowned us. The Pastor tried everything in his power to destroy our little family. It was a devastating and emotional time for us. Here is the profound part - when no one would help us, no one showed us support and no one cared to say good bye..........our neighbors did. If fact, they even brought me over some meals. A lentil stew to be exact. That changed my life forever. I was the one being ministered to by my neighbor. Very unique neighbors at that. As a sat and ate that stew I thought about friends. I thought about what a meal means. I thought about the church I had served at for 16 years and what it meant to be rejected all because we said we heard God. I didn't get a meal from any of my friends from church, I didn't get a goodbye or a hug. But, yet my 2 neighbor ladies cared enough to help my family when we were in need. Yep, that lentil stew was very important to me. It meant relationship. I still email them and they email us. They send pic's of their baby. They have given me more open doors to talk about God and what He means to me and I listen with sincere interest as they tell me all about their lives.
I know it's not over. This relationship is important because it's important to God. It just really catches you off guard when they display more of a 'community' spirit then your own 'community'. These are life lessons. Really important ones. I can't ever forget it.
'Love your neighbor as you love yourself' takes on new meaning for me now. Little did I know that lentil stew and the words 'be nice' would transform my life so much.
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